Originally Posted by Browncoat
Yeah having an intelligent nonjudgmental ear is so vital when dealing with serious issues like these that build resentment. I kind of suspected you already had a lot built up by now... just didn't want to presume.
Is there much laughter and joy in your house? If not, perhaps finding creative ways to bring that back home will help. I know my wife and I love watching movies and TV shows on netflix together. We pause all the time and talk and talk about the film, ideas, what's on our hearts from the day... w/e.
Now not plugging netflix here... but trying to find something that you two can do together and increase communication and bring some fun/joy into your lives might be just what the doctor ordered while you are working through things in therapy and making up your mind in general.
When my husband is home there is rarely laughter. I was a social butterfly before I was married...and now...I never go out.We very rarely do anything as a family. We have our TV shows that we watch together but we don't talk about them. We rarely have conversation outside of talking about the kids, whats for dinner, the daily mundane. We argue over everything; so i just keep quiet.