Rymeldmnc - I am sorry to hear that disturbing news. I can somewhat relate to your situation & I too am at a cross roads.
My husband cheated on me almost 3 years ago & I think it was about a 2 year affair. He said it was over, but he had a few lapse that I am aware of. But think it really has stopped with her, unfortunately, after getting her pregnant.
Anyways - we/he decided to stay & work on us. I thought that was the plan & knew it would take time. However, I just found out some new information ( almost 1.5 years after the event happened).
I am trying to figure out becasue it happened so long ago, do I dig it up & dwell on it, since we have seemed to have made progress? If I didn't acknowlede it I wouldn't have been true to myself.
I felt I really wanted to get beyond our issues & work on our marriage & it seemed to be moving in that direction. But yet I was living yet another lie because he was not truthful (1.5 yrs ago). I wonder if there are other things I don't know about? Maybe I am better off not knowing??
But the timing of finding out this information is making my decision a little bit harder . . .
What are your thought on the time factor & how has your relationship has changed since when he cheated?
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Originally Posted by rymeldmnc
i just found out yesterday that my husband of almost 4 years cheated on me almost 2 years ago im freaked out i want to leave but i cant bring my to leave but i cant lookat him with out crying do i try to get over it and fix it and be with him know that he might do it again?
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