Originally Posted by husbandfool
I see your point. I need to read up more on this stuff. You're right. At one of our counselling sessions my W announced that I "needed to grow a pair". I guess she might be out shopping for a rental "pair" herself lately?!
We used to have sex several times a week. However, the last 3 months it's been maybe once every 3 weeks. And then she wants it doen in 5 minutes so she can get some sleep. She is often tired at night and has started taking sleeping pills at home. This means she's out cold by 9:30PM ... not much happening most nights.
Interestingly, last night she was very receptive to sex. That took me by surprised.
A sudden unexplained drop in frequency of sex is another huge red flag. She is used to getting it several times a week. She is probably STILL maintaining the same frequency - just not with you.
The sleeping pills taken early in the evening gives her an excuse to save herself for the OM.
The comment that adultery is no big deal is very disturbing.
Stay vigilant. She will slip up.