swedish

We've been married 7 years (first marriage for him, second for me & I have 3 kids from my first) All the signs were there for a few weeks (taking particular care in his appearance, seemed happy to leave in the morning and very distant at home to eventually him getting calls on his cell in the evenings or spending time on his laptop) I broke down one night and just told him everything I was feeling (everything except my suspicions since I could not confirm anything) He called her the next day and ended it on a Sunday. The next day, he left his cell phone home and I snooped...found this person's name with several numbers so I called. A woman answered and I hung up. Did some searching online and found out her age which fit. I confronted him when he got home...asked who blah blah was and he said a friend from work. I told him I called her (didn't say I didn't talk to her) and just said please be honest now because everything going through my head is much worse than anything you can tell me. He told me everything, looked right in my eyes the whole time. I didn't cry or raise my voice so we were able to just talk for hours. He works with her, they started talking about personal issues, and for the last 2 weeks went to lunch and kissed. He never met with her outside of work and they didn't have sex, but he said it was definitely headed in that direction. The only way I was able to move forward was to see my role in where our marriage was at the time. We both wanted the same thing-to feel loved an appreciated, but neither was making the other feel that way. Since that day, he has been an open book and is committed to regaining my trust. It is better each day but I still have my bad days. It's been 9 months. It still bothers me that they both still work there and I don't think my feelings will change until one of them leaves.