Originally Posted by *Dean*
First I want to acknowledge Atholk's book the Married Man's Sex Life Primer.
After posting on TAM for over 6 months,
I can say that I have read so many success stories in regard
to men putting to practice the teaches of this book.
I'm not an expert and haven't read the book yet but I'm planning on buying it soon.
Humanbecoming I believe that your wife knows in her heart
that you would not step out. You are still a very young man
and it is going to be very difficult for you to keep resentment
from not building up over the next 10+ years.
Again I'm not an expert but with my marriage, no matter how
much I love my wife, it's constant where I have to keep her guessing
and not let her feel I'm going to accept bad behavior.
Sad but it's all part of the game of life and marriage with my wife.
I'm just pointing out that if you feel like that, your wife most likely knows it
and that is why it caused the backsliding.
Wish you the best.
I know what your talking about from the other side. Life after applying MMSL is far different than before.
Over the past year I do feel 'on edge' (for lack of a better term) in my marriage. It's not a bad thing, just a constant reminder to me how I need to treat my husband.
For most of our marriage it really didn't matter to me what he thought about my attitude or behaviors, but now he's different. I guess I'm different too. Our marriage is far different than it's ever been. I love the relationship we have and I don't want to mess it up.
I know I'm being gamed, and it doesn't bother me. Sometimes I do feel bad to think that maybe to him it may feel like more work than it should be to keep what we have, but then marriage is work. Anything worth having or keeping is going to take work. I just try not to make it too much of a burden for him. Some days are easier than others.
My hope is that he will always feel that the rewards far outweigh the efforts.