swedish

I think being over him depends on her and would vary from person to person. From your original post, it sounds as though she has changed a lot, moved away from him, matured in the relationship and is now committed to you which are all indications that her mind is in the right place. She may have gotten a wake-up call when she got caught and realized what she really wanted. It's unfortunate that she broke your vows in the process. I really think you need to focus on what will make you feel better. If you understand why this happened, do you have some level of comfort that you are both addressing those issues so you don't fear it will happen again?