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survivorwife · 05-23-2012, 06:55 AM

As some of you may be aware, I am a BS who left the marital home because my WS refused to do so. In my State, no divorce and or separation litigation can be started unless the couple is living apart, therefore one of us had to leave the marital home. He was advised (probably by one of his OW) not to leave, and as a result of that decision, I found a nice rental, along with a friend of 20 plus years who also left her spouse due to her own marital problems, and am now living comfortably not too far from the marital home. That occurred several months ago.

I recently found out that my WS changed the locks on the marital home, of which I hold half ownership to, and I suspect that this action was also on the advise of one of his OW. He told me that, should I want access to the marital home, I would need to arrange it with him. I advised my attorney of this development and suspect that she will pursue the matter further so that the end result is that I have access to the property until such time as I am no longer a co-owner.

Has anyone else had an experience such as this? Any insight into a CH who effectively locks the BS out of her home on the advise of the OW? Comments? Suggestions? I’m just trying to wrap my mind around what he believes his purpose in doing so is. I have no history of violence or vandalism, so surely it is not about protecting himself from me. I prefer legal remedies as a last resort to resolve these issues, although I would be well within my rights to break a window to gain access.

I sure could use a little hand holding here and hope that some of you have experience with a WS who is so narcissistic and controlling that he would think to punish his BS for leaving.

05-23-2012, 06:55 AM	#1 (permalink)
survivorwife Member Join Date: May 2012 Posts: 897	The Marital Home As some of you may be aware, I am a BS who left the marital home because my WS refused to do so. In my State, no divorce and or separation litigation can be started unless the couple is living apart, therefore one of us had to leave the marital home. He was advised (probably by one of his OW) not to leave, and as a result of that decision, I found a nice rental, along with a friend of 20 plus years who also left her spouse due to her own marital problems, and am now living comfortably not too far from the marital home. That occurred several months ago. I recently found out that my WS changed the locks on the marital home, of which I hold half ownership to, and I suspect that this action was also on the advise of one of his OW. He told me that, should I want access to the marital home, I would need to arrange it with him. I advised my attorney of this development and suspect that she will pursue the matter further so that the end result is that I have access to the property until such time as I am no longer a co-owner. Has anyone else had an experience such as this? Any insight into a CH who effectively locks the BS out of her home on the advise of the OW? Comments? Suggestions? I’m just trying to wrap my mind around what he believes his purpose in doing so is. I have no history of violence or vandalism, so surely it is not about protecting himself from me. I prefer legal remedies as a last resort to resolve these issues, although I would be well within my rights to break a window to gain access. I sure could use a little hand holding here and hope that some of you have experience with a WS who is so narcissistic and controlling that he would think to punish his BS for leaving.