carmaenforcer

believer
The cheating happened almost three years ago. Initially I had just found out that she was keeping in touch with her ex-boyfriend, assumed she had cheated but she just slapped me for going through her cell phone and left. Since I knew from the content on the text I read from him to her that more than likely she had at least made out with him, I simply stopped calling her and tried to move on. It wasn't until she came back to ask for me back that I found out she had not only cheated but that she was pregnant only didn't know if it was mine or his.
I took her back not knowing but this pregnancy miscarried before we could know who's baby it was. Shortly after that my Wife proposed to me and I excepted with the condition that she cut all ties with not just him but all her ex-boyfriends that she was now "friends" with and with her voluntary promise to never hurt me again.
We have had our share of issues due to my fears and suspicions and her selfish nature and flirtatiousness.
No, I don't believe in unconditional love anymore, a woman will love only if conditions are as she wants them and call it "having your feelings met". Policing every little thing she does wrong and doling out punishment to correct behavior is the only way I saw to actually "make" things fair in our relationship.

I know that I am not 100% happy having to live life the way I have to, but I from the looks of things, I could do worse and so why not try to fix the problems instead of running from them. Chances are great that the next woman will be the same or worse and I already have a beautiful baby boy with my Wife.


I've been divorced before and have had to do the absentee (weekend) father thing and I can tell you I want to raise my child now. I do believe that people should make more of an effort for the children and not be so quick to break up but my opinion is biased obviously.

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