| | Re: Do you ever get over it?
Youre right, you cant make them stay. My ex involved herself with other men, and that was the deciding factor on her end to divorce when I found out. The only willing thing I did was leave a cheater, she filed for the divorce, I simply agreed. The whole infidelity thing was the deciding factor to me.
getting over it or moving on or however you want to call it is an exercise in patience. It can and will only take time and actually going thru the emotions of grief and depressed moods, to be rid of them. Its been nine months for me and I feel 200% better than I did the first five months. Why? I dont know the answer, and I am revisited often by moments of sadness, and watching her too move on with someone else, the effects on the kid, the isolation, lonliness, anger.
Feel those things, but dont let them trap you there.
Talk to people, if depression gets bad, get help.
Realize you were a complete person long before you met this woman who is checking out, and you will find your ground again, and someone thats really wonderful.
His delay, is not a denial.