in essence what OP is really asking-
post affair:
do you blindly love and value your spouse over your own well being?
and
do you trust your spouse to care for you in the same way?
honestly we could make up all sorts of weird questions that have the same answers, I'm reminded of that
Book of Questions that was popular in the late 80's. It was just different morality and thought provoking questions.
(ie. would you rather pull the wings off of a butterfly or squash a ****roach? making you wonder if one life form is more valued than another)
