| | Re: The man worth marrying...advice? input?
It may be that his self-centeredness is related to his having been ill. Now that he is well, do you still find him immature and selfish?
Watch how he treats others. What is his attitude toward his mother, sisters if he has any? How does he treat waitresses? That will give you clues about his attitude toward women.
What did he say when you mentioned the financial problems? Was his response honest and open, or did he blow you off with excuses?
Do you both share the same goals in life? Do you have the same attitude toward having children?
I would say get to know each other a little more. Make sure you can weather stresses together. If you both want to be married and faithful, you will do what it takes to have a good relationship. Attitude and communication are everything in a marriage.