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Russell · 05-01-2008, 08:17 PM

Okay... I know many of you have been wanting an update.

Well, I've decided to go back into the Army. With or without her. She has since seen things won't work out with him, and that I am grateful for. However... if she's still with me only for the sake of our son, then its the wrong reason. It should be because she wants to be with me, and no other reason.

I can't get into specifics at the moment, but she is looking forward to our immediate future. I guess thats a good start. To be honest, so am I. I mean, I'm retiring in 12 years... if I live that long. We're at war at the moment, so its kinda hard to be completely optimistic here. But, my Jane is worth dieing for, and so is my Tommy Two Tone.

I am the luckiest man alive to have her near my side. And it was my fault she had strayed tobegin with. I have forgiven her, I just hope she forgives herself. We're working on the trust issues after her affair though. She has been picking Homewrecker up for work every day. Up until this week, also taking him home. His car wasn't inspected. Forgive me for not being sympathetic to his excuse for spending time with my wife. The messed up part is his boss can pick him mup and take him home, and lives only 3 miles from him, whereas my wife lives 24 miles from him. Kinda more 8 up then 9.... its still a work in progress. However I am about to take a stand on that too. If she wants me, fine, then she wants me. She must eliminate all contact with him in order for me to trust her. She has absolutely no clue what she is doing to me when she tells me she is with him. I want to just go after him and beat his lilly rear into the ground profusely. I hate him.

Enough about Homerwrecker... more about Jane and I.

Recently we've both begun our healling processes. Her, trying to trust me, and myself... the same with her. I really can't with him anywhere near her though. Noone can give me any benefit of the doubt crap either... its him or me. And to be honest, she says its me... but I can't believe that when he's in her car every day any reason at all. His car isn't inspected... and he has no ride to and from work. Like I honestly care? All I see is he's in her car every day. If she wants me... then she would be saying to him "Sorry, but thats the way he wants it. I really screwed up here, and I know he did too, but the only way we made it this far in our marriage was a lot of hard work and compromise." And to be honest, that is the truth.

Well hey guys... thanks for the offers of companionship through this, you've all made some respect here. And Mom... where were you sixteen years ago? ;op

Thank you.

05-01-2008, 08:17 PM	#12 (permalink)
Russell Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 58	Re: Very complicated... please help Okay... I know many of you have been wanting an update. Well, I've decided to go back into the Army. With or without her. She has since seen things won't work out with him, and that I am grateful for. However... if she's still with me only for the sake of our son, then its the wrong reason. It should be because she wants to be with me, and no other reason. I can't get into specifics at the moment, but she is looking forward to our immediate future. I guess thats a good start. To be honest, so am I. I mean, I'm retiring in 12 years... if I live that long. We're at war at the moment, so its kinda hard to be completely optimistic here. But, my Jane is worth dieing for, and so is my Tommy Two Tone. I am the luckiest man alive to have her near my side. And it was my fault she had strayed tobegin with. I have forgiven her, I just hope she forgives herself. We're working on the trust issues after her affair though. She has been picking Homewrecker up for work every day. Up until this week, also taking him home. His car wasn't inspected. Forgive me for not being sympathetic to his excuse for spending time with my wife. The messed up part is his boss can pick him mup and take him home, and lives only 3 miles from him, whereas my wife lives 24 miles from him. Kinda more 8 up then 9.... its still a work in progress. However I am about to take a stand on that too. If she wants me, fine, then she wants me. She must eliminate all contact with him in order for me to trust her. She has absolutely no clue what she is doing to me when she tells me she is with him. I want to just go after him and beat his lilly rear into the ground profusely. I hate him. Enough about Homerwrecker... more about Jane and I. Recently we've both begun our healling processes. Her, trying to trust me, and myself... the same with her. I really can't with him anywhere near her though. Noone can give me any benefit of the doubt crap either... its him or me. And to be honest, she says its me... but I can't believe that when he's in her car every day any reason at all. His car isn't inspected... and he has no ride to and from work. Like I honestly care? All I see is he's in her car every day. If she wants me... then she would be saying to him "Sorry, but thats the way he wants it. I really screwed up here, and I know he did too, but the only way we made it this far in our marriage was a lot of hard work and compromise." And to be honest, that is the truth. Well hey guys... thanks for the offers of companionship through this, you've all made some respect here. And Mom... where were you sixteen years ago? ;op Thank you. __________________ Hi, my name is Russ, and I'm a recovering alcoholic. Sober since 27 March, 2008.