And to synthetic, I don't mean to sound bratty, but it doesn't strike me as fair of you to say that I don't love this man. I think that if you had been there to watch the situations that cause me to say that he behaves in a selfish way, you would understand what I meant. I do love him, I'm just worried and don't want us to make a mistake, but I do agree with you that if things don't change and I do marry him with these actions and feelings still present, then I will resent him. I don't resent him now, I'm just confused by the things that have happened between us.
It's usually the seemingly unfair, harsh and shocking realities of life that help the 'adult' part of our brain to overcome the immaturity of our inner-child. Without these realities, we would all end up starving ourselves to death while justifying it as "love".
Your inner-child wants you to believe you love your partner "to death". In fact, the "to death" part is a crystal clear evidence of your inner-child's full presence while you typed that sentence. Our emotions are all dictated by our inner-child.
The adult in you however knows that you do not (and should not) love anyone "to death" because it goes against your survival instincts.
You may think I'm clinging onto trivial words in your post. That's normal. It's your inner-child justifying your usage of the phrase "to death" as unimportant when the adult is being confrontational about it.
See how complex and beautiful the human brain is?