Originally Posted by SPRelationshipCounselling
Ouch ! regarding exposure advice.
If /When you discover your partner is having an affair. It's a shock. You are in shock.Emotions flood or you numb out. It's worth taking some time and getting support before making any big decisions.
Telling people around you that your partner is having an affair is a big decision . It's worth considering the consequences. I work with a lot of couples after an affair. The Betrayed Spouses who did tell everyone, tend to wish they haddn't.
exposure advice is for those who are trying to destroy/disrupt an affair as you can't even fruitfully get to that counseling stage in the first place until the affair is over and the spouse comes out of the fog
personally I didn't have to expose (excepting the OMW, which I think always deserves to know), I am one of the lucky few
while I don't think you should jump right to exposure in most cases, I do think in most cases of exposure on this board, it was evident that it needed to come out to bring the affair to light