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Affaircare · 05-23-2012, 01:58 PM

Long story short, you have documented that he is willing to behave illegally and block you from the assets to which you are half owner. That is an accomplishment it and of itself.
Privately, since you have moved out it would be common courtesy to not just let yourself in and go through his living quarters. You wouldn't want him to go to your rental and go through your things. HOWEVER, the big difference is that until the divorce is final, you have the legal right to do so as half-owner...and since he's not on your lease, he does not! That is a HUGE point!

So from a courtesy point of view, it would be polite to call first and make arrangements; however, since you are part-owner and you've never just shown up while he's out and just gone through the house and taken things--he has no legal leg to stand on. I say just use it to your advantage in court and let the rest go.

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Affaircare Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Pacific Northwest Posts: 2,509	Re: The Marital Home Long story short, you have documented that he is willing to behave illegally and block you from the assets to which you are half owner. That is an accomplishment it and of itself. Privately, since you have moved out it would be common courtesy to not just let yourself in and go through his living quarters. You wouldn't want him to go to your rental and go through your things. HOWEVER, the big difference is that until the divorce is final, you have the legal right to do so as half-owner...and since he's not on your lease, he does not! That is a HUGE point! So from a courtesy point of view, it would be polite to call first and make arrangements; however, since you are part-owner and you've never just shown up while he's out and just gone through the house and taken things--he has no legal leg to stand on. I say just use it to your advantage in court and let the rest go. __________________ Helping couples recover and reconcile after an affair or keep their marriages affair-free at Affaircare. The 180 * Coping With Infidelity Newbies--Please read this!