oakhillady and lamaga,
I'm very sorry if I sounded condescending.
As far as being angry, I can only wish
I'm going through a hurtful separation myself. There's not a moment I don't feel like "I love my wife to death".
Our situation was actually very similar to yours oakhillady. We got married when I was 27 and she was 26. My wife indeed had the same concerns and doubts. I had none (so I thought)
The "condescending" posts you read from me are the realities I have come to somewhat accept after 11 years in this relationship. They are actually the result of the most truthful moments of clarity I've experienced.
My profession is not psychology at all. I'm a software engineer. I have absolutely no idea about psychojargon and the BS that many shrinks feed people to get their money.
These are things I have learned about myself, my wife, my parents and the heart-crushing failure of a marriage that I'm having to experience.
I love my wife dearly. She has been my world for 11 years. My inner child never wanted to believe that my wife never loved me the way I loved her.
We will be divorcing...