See my wife is the opposite, she withholds sex, when a big day is comming up....Becuase she is "building up to the day" By the time the day comes, she thinks I am ready to unleash my rawness on her...which does happen. But I ahve tried to with hold sex from her because I was mad at her...but then I think to myself, who am I really punishing here??? Next thing I know we are in bed.
My wife's monthly friend was visiting us, but our make out sessions are so hot and wild of flippign around on the bed, she often reaches orgasm without me penetrating her. SHe has certain hot spots on her Neck, back of knees, he back and her chest...I pay extra special attention to these area's to a point where I drive her wild. It's an awful lot of fun!
Maybe you need to find your Hubby's hot spots, tease him some what, sure real sex only last a few minutes, but you can really build up to it, and really that is the most fun.