Originally Posted by vrwc
Hi Aug; Thanks for the reply. IF the affair (very brief, she claimed) did happen, how am I blocking her from releasing the guilt by being accepting? It was 15 plus years ago, and we now live literally 10,000 miles from where we used to. It's half a world and half a lifetime away.
When she told you, was she angry? Was she expecting you to react? In anger? Did you get upset? Perhaps she wasnt getting the reaction that she expected from a BS?
Some other possibilities...
Any stressful happenings in her life currently? Is there a problem at work? With her family? With your family?
Did she lose some weight? Did she improve her appearance? Do you know if she's having an EA/PA?
You say she's in her 40s. Is she in perimenopause? If so, her hormones could be throwing her out of whack?
just some quick ideas...