This is my first post and I really can't believe I am doing this. But I need some feedback. My husband and I have been married almost 10 years and have three young children. The last few years, I have noticed a drop in everything that used to make me feel loved and safe in our relationship. No more hugs or kisses or touching that doesn't result in sex. I read that "5 love languages" book and for me, physical touch is definitely my love language. I will take a hug over a diamond ring any day of the week!
I think by nature, my husband is not affectionate. His family is not either. He has to really make an effort. I know what you are going to say - talk to him. I did. Many times. Talked to him face-to-face, wrote him a letter (he says he understands things better in writing, scholarly person that he is). And nothing changes. Sunday night I told him that I need more affection. I repeated that I
need it. Not want. Need. He says he is just stressed and tired from work and the kids. Here's the thing guys, I believe him. We have never had any issues in our marriage before this. I truly believe he loves me and IS stressed mainly because of the kids. BUT, if your wife looks you in the eyes and says, I need you to hug me more, wouldn't you get up and give her a hug right then and there and every day after that? It's been 5 days. No hug. No kiss. No touch of any kind. I'm starting to think he doesn't love me anymore. How else can I communicate my needs to him? How can I get some sort of action from him? I sure hope someone out there has some insight. Thanks for listening.