Originally Posted by ZorroFL
I need a womans opinion with regard to my wife's occasional behavior. My wife and I have known each other for 10 years, dated for 3 and have been married for 18 months. I have been married previously, this is her first marriage. She has never really had a long term relationship and, thankfully, she has been candid about her past. My wife is having a hard time giving up her single life. She is a wonderful, beautiful person and has tons of friends and I have always known that about her and I accept that she devotes a lot of time to her friends. Many times she will hang out with her single friends after work and have a few drinks. I have no problem with this. On occasion, usually once a month, she calls me and says she has had too much to drink and stays over at her single friends house. I certainly dont want her driving if she has had too much to drink. Once even staying over at a single mans house. Worse yet, she has lied to me saying she was at work when actully she was out with her single friends, not comming home til 4pm the next day. I am desperatly trying not to be controlling. She deserves and needs to spend time with her friends. But I think it is inappropriate for her, as a married woman, to stay out all night. I ask her to be more considerate of me when she makes these decisions. She has a choice to not drink to excess. When I tell her that staying out all night, and worse yet lying to me, hurts me deeply. She refuses to discuss it with me saying she dosent see any problem with this. Its this behavior that I need some feedback on. Is it appropriate, is it not. How do I handle the issue. I do go out with her as often as I can, often times joining her and her friends. I am just not good with her all nighters. Is that too much to ask?
So he pretty much hit a menu of bad stuff in her behavior and his own.
Yeah I know this was for the Ladies ... OMG UFB
Overnight with a male friend = divorce for me. Good luck
FWIW if my wife called me and said she was too drunk to drive, I am picking her up. I don't care what time it is.
Lying!? Forget it. That is terminal.
So you have to ask someone if it is ok for a woman to lie to you and to stay out all night? Is it ok for her to stay at a male friends house ... all night? You ask her to be more considerate. She refuses to discuss this with you. She stays out all day through the next day, lies about it and then tells you to buzz off. Now this behavior is certainly bad, but the worst behavior you do have absolute control over. I cannot understand why any man would be ok with any of this whatsoever. Why are some men so afraid of being called controlling? They would rather a wife be with a dozen other men than be called controlling. Amazing really.
This first post is so well put together with bad stuff it feels like a few college guys or sailors sitting around put this together as a joke.
If it is real it is certainly no joke but it is that outrageous.