Originally Posted by jennifer1986
Where in the Bible does it say "no sex before marriage"? And do we do everything the Bible says? (Oh, I hope not).
There are many places in the Bible that forbid fornication. Fornication is sex between unmarried, heterosexual people.
Here are a few:
In every form, fornication is sternly condemned by the Mosaic law among God's people, the Israelites (Lev. 21:9; 19:29; Deut. 22:20-11, 23-29; 23:18; Ex. 22:16).
Fornication is also mentioned many times in the New Testament (Matt. 5:32; 19:9; John 8:41; Acts 15:20, 29; 21:25; Rom. 1:29; 1 Cor 5:1, 6:13, 18, 7:2; 10:8; 2 Cor 12:21; Gal 5:19; Eph 5:3; Col 3:5; 1 Thess. 4:3; Jude 1:7; Rev. 2:14, 20-21; 9:21; 14:8; 17:2,4).
You have every right to believe as you do.
Those who believe that sex outside of marriage is wrong have just as much right to your beliefs.
My personals beliefs are somewhere between the two. Itís not a black/white issue to me.
However, one strong argument for the idea that sex outside of marriage being forbidden is that the promiscuity in our society is leading to a huge number of social ills.
At least abstaining from sex until after marriage does not lead to things like the huge number of babies born into single parent homes in which the babies do not get adequate parenting, it does not transmit sexual deceases which are ramped in our society, and it does not lead to people being so used by multiple partners before marriage that they suffer from what can be seen as a form of stress and distrust disorders.
As we can see in the many stories here, having sex before marriage is not an indicator of what the couple's sex life will be like after marriage... not by a long shot. I can attess to that from my own life.
Living together before marriage also does not help us assess what a person will be like after marriage because people change after marriage.. most people seem to have a preset idea of what being a husband and wife is like.. and as soon as they are married they fall into that roll. And that roll is often quite differnt than the roll they were in as a live-in partner. I have read that one of the biggest indicators of whether or not a couple will get a divorce is if they lived together before marriage.