demora

It sounds like to me that you need to make your decision and stick with it. It's not fair to your family to keep flip flopping back and forth about what you want to do. That will cause more hurt and feelings of animosity because the longer it goes on the more unhappy and hurt you will both become.

I can't comment on the religion part of it. That's a very personal decision for everyone to make. But I believe in treating others as you would want to be treated, and if someone didn't really love me, then I wouldn't want them to keep staying and hurting me....or pretending.

Nothing says that you can't be a very large part of your kids lives, even if the two of you are not married anymore - and espcecially if you can salvage a friendship out of it. Just because things change doesn't necessarily mean you lose.