| | Re: How do I treat the husband/father/enemy?
Seeing your husband as the enemy does you no good at all. Treat him with respect even if you are upset with him. He’s the father of your children. He does not have to be an enemy for you to be independent, whether if you divorce or stay married.
The best thing you can do is to work on yourself. If you can go to an IC and become the best person you can be.
Even though you want him to leave the family home, he does not have to. He is legally as entitled to live there as you are. If he’s smart he will not leave as he is the father of the children the two of you have together.
If you want a divorce, then you can move out if you wish. You can only move your children out of the family home if he agrees to this or the court orders it.
I’m not ‘choosing’ his side, I’m telling you what the law allows for.
Do you have a job outside the home?