| | Re: How do I treat the husband/father/enemy?
He is not the sort who will fight for the kids or to live in this home. He'll go. And he's not a monster, he'll continue to support us. But he is an excellent martyr. He'll go and then try to make me feel guilty, because will always feel justified in how he's treated me. I don't want to see him that way, but I do. I want to be respectful, but I'm at the point where I can't ignore his betrayals and disrespect any longer. And I certainly can't act like everything's fine, and smile and laugh either, so how do I respond when he tries to engage me in jovial conversation? Because I want to scream, "How could you ruin our life and destroy my happiness??? Should there be some sort of cooling off period? Some sort of no-contact period so that the kids don't end up getting in the middle and mom doesn't end up a total basket case? What is the next step?