| | Re: Protectiveness?
I agree with norajane. I did not associate protectiveness with jealous or controlling either.
I am very protective of my wife, but it has little to do with being jealous or trying to control HER behavior. I may decide to control someone elses behavior if I think she needs me too.
The other side of this is that this could be a bit of a fitness test. Maybe she just wants more attention. She may feel you have left her alone at a party.
I mean a woman should be able to shut a guy down on her own. However, there are men who do not get the message. Coming over to drive away this type of jerk is fine. This can be done in a very subtle way.
I agree, that you should ask her what she means. maybe there is a specific instance she felt you should have stepped in. Maybe she wants some validation that you care. Maybe she just wants to feel more like a couple.
Frankly my wife will do this same thing for me. It is subtle but she will come by and put her arm around me and hold her body in a close way that is affectionate but probably does make the statement that just in case you are not sure, he is mine. I am fine with that. She cares. Good deal. In no wy has she ever been controlling in my view. Just protective of "us".
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Last edited by Entropy3000; 05-24-2012 at 11:58 PM.