| | Re: marriage counseling? WIll it help?
As a marriage counselor for The Marriage and Family Clinic in Denver, CO. I have to say that marriage counseling absolutely does work. In order to get the best results, a couple things have to happen first. 1) Both people have to be invested in therapy. If one's going reluctantly or going just to prove that they tried it before divorcing, marriage counseling usually won't work. 2) Both people are perfectly honest during sessions. This means they talk about all their thoughts, fears, wants, etc. If they're not honest, the therapist can't really help them effectively tackle the real issues in their marriage.
There's a few more but these are the most important ones. If you think your relationship matches these criteria then marriage counseling will usually work. As mentioned before, a lot of it depends on the therapist you get, too. If you get a therapist that you just don't feel comfortable with, don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. There's lots of therapists out there. You're bound to find one that really fits for both of you.