Originally Posted by NiceGuy_Sam1971
Update: I have been to my doctor and he immediately put me on valium to calm me, only a tempory thing but it seemed to help some what. I told him everything about my past and what has happend within my marriage. I was brutally honest with him about how ashamed I feel and guilty not just for trying to take my own life but also things within the marriage that I feel I could have done to stop this all from happening. I told him I've not been the model husband that I should have been and have on many occations rejected my wifes pleas to be with me or go out with me. This coupled with my wifes fears of rejection and the fact she thought I didnt love her has all grown to make me feel guilty and that I could have prevented this from happening.
Has your wife told you what she needs to feel loved? Find out. Does she expect something reasonable? Or is she in capable of feeling loved and therefore she is always looking for someone new to love her?
How much time did you spend weekly with your wife, just the two fo you doing date-like things together? It takes about 15 hours a week couples time to maintain the close emotional attachment that makes a marriage passionate.