Originally Posted by Married in VA
I am in the same boat. I have tried the uncontested route with my STBXW but she won't sign the agreement. She keeps wanting more and more even though the agreement is much better than what she will get in court. I guess some folks need to learn the hard way I suppose. Fantasy can cloud the vision.
To be honest here, STBXH started with an uncontested agreement, but he was hoping that I would just accept his paltry terms, curl up and die. Surprise! I'm not. Why? Because he abandoned him for T Wrecks (lives with her), gave our LL 30 day notice that we were leaving without telling me, left all of $10 in the bank, etc all while I'm trying to recover from brain surgery (tumor removed). Both kids are over 18, so no worries on his part about child support. I'm just trying to get him to abide by and uphold HIS offer but that's not happenin'.
So, off to the lawyer I go. Being declared by the gov't as "disabled" should help. Although I'm self sufficient, I'm no longer employable due to my age, the job market and some residual effects from the tumor, can't earn a living. I have a BA degree and 20+ yrs experience in transportation (office) but deemed, for all intents and purposes, useless!