Originally Posted by SageMother

In your shoes, I would tell him that his looking at other women makes you feel less attractive or less willing to spend time working up the energy to explore more. I'd tell him that my fantasy is him getting his stimulus from ME and not from what he sees that is all fantasy. I'd tell him this even if it wasn't completely accurate, to take some of the pressure off ME and place it back on his behavior, because that sounds like alot of the problem.