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dobo · 08-09-2009, 11:46 AM

So are you going to leave him? If he doesn't know what he wants after 7 years, he's not going to know with a little more time. Only if you make a decision, set a time limit, and then stick to it will you have a prayer of being happy. If not, this could go on and on and on forever.

It seems to me that when a man wants to marry a woman, and wants to commit to her, he does it. He does it with everything in his being. Don't you deserve that from someone?

If he were to marry you tomorrow, don't you think that at every sign of a problem, you'd wonder if he married you to maintain his comfort level instead of because he truly wanted to be with you? I would. I'd worry that I forced the marriage and he went along with it because there werent' any better options at the moment.

Establish your own life. Become independent. Decide what you want and then go for it, with or without him. Don't waste your life on a guy who has from the start, told you that what he wants isn't compatible with what you want.

08-09-2009, 11:46 AM	#10 (permalink)
dobo Banned Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1,401	Re: Can't feel better, don't know what to do... So are you going to leave him? If he doesn't know what he wants after 7 years, he's not going to know with a little more time. Only if you make a decision, set a time limit, and then stick to it will you have a prayer of being happy. If not, this could go on and on and on forever. It seems to me that when a man wants to marry a woman, and wants to commit to her, he does it. He does it with everything in his being. Don't you deserve that from someone? If he were to marry you tomorrow, don't you think that at every sign of a problem, you'd wonder if he married you to maintain his comfort level instead of because he truly wanted to be with you? I would. I'd worry that I forced the marriage and he went along with it because there werent' any better options at the moment. Establish your own life. Become independent. Decide what you want and then go for it, with or without him. Don't waste your life on a guy who has from the start, told you that what he wants isn't compatible with what you want.