Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - H wants to get divorced... I want to work things out. What should I do?

Trickster · 05-27-2012, 11:13 AM

I think it is important that you work to be independent. Try not to rely on H so much.

Maybe yet your parents help if you have to.

My wife snores now and many nights, I sleep in the spare bedroom.THAT is not the reason though.

Many nights I can't sleep and I will go to the other room. That is not the real reason either.

Like your hubby I've lost the loving feeling. We seem more like roomates. I know that I say some hurtfull things to my W. I can't help it. I think of D a lot. I don't want to leave my daughter.

I feel a little neglected but I know my W is trying more than before. She could be doing her best.

I think that you may be your husbands best friend. He may be afraid to lose that. My wife is my best friend... After 20 years, she may be my ONLY friend.

Call his bluff! take the kids and stay with your parents for a week or two (if you can) call it a little vacation or something.

I know when my wife and daughter took a trip for a week to visit family, I really missed them. They need another little trip again so I can see how much I will misss them. Sometimes I forget what my life was like before I met my wife.

When we first met, (like you) we split for a while. I did the dating thing and I had a blast. When she wanted to get back together, I didn't want to stop the dating. I soon realized that I liked her more than anybody else. That was over 15 years ago.

SO...Don't always be there for him. I can easily blame my wife for EVERYTHING... I am perfect of course. Really though, I have more hang-ups than my wife.

If my wife made all the changes that I want... I would invent more issues!!!!!!!!

sorry, I don't think my post made much sense. It's just a lot of mixed up thoughts.

Stay strong and don't allow your Husbands words to hurt you.

05-27-2012, 11:13 AM	#3 (permalink)
Trickster Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Texas Posts: 663	Re: H wants to get divorced... I want to work things out. What should I do? I think it is important that you work to be independent. Try not to rely on H so much. Maybe yet your parents help if you have to. My wife snores now and many nights, I sleep in the spare bedroom.THAT is not the reason though. Many nights I can't sleep and I will go to the other room. That is not the real reason either. Like your hubby I've lost the loving feeling. We seem more like roomates. I know that I say some hurtfull things to my W. I can't help it. I think of D a lot. I don't want to leave my daughter. I feel a little neglected but I know my W is trying more than before. She could be doing her best. I think that you may be your husbands best friend. He may be afraid to lose that. My wife is my best friend... After 20 years, she may be my ONLY friend. Call his bluff! take the kids and stay with your parents for a week or two (if you can) call it a little vacation or something. I know when my wife and daughter took a trip for a week to visit family, I really missed them. They need another little trip again so I can see how much I will misss them. Sometimes I forget what my life was like before I met my wife. When we first met, (like you) we split for a while. I did the dating thing and I had a blast. When she wanted to get back together, I didn't want to stop the dating. I soon realized that I liked her more than anybody else. That was over 15 years ago. SO...Don't always be there for him. I can easily blame my wife for EVERYTHING... I am perfect of course. Really though, I have more hang-ups than my wife. If my wife made all the changes that I want... I would invent more issues!!!!!!!! sorry, I don't think my post made much sense. It's just a lot of mixed up thoughts. Stay strong and don't allow your Husbands words to hurt you.