I don`t usually go nuclear.
The issue I spoke of was one that had gotten to a point after 4 years of those particular boundaries being trampled/tested and there was no room for compromise. I had let it go too long.
It was the only place to go to enforce that boundary(nuclear).
It has made her pretty insecure but we`ve had a few months building her security back up and maybe just maybe she (nor I) should be as deceptively secure as we thought we were.
I believe it`s unhealthy to feel as if you will stay together "No matter what" as that`s a blue print for being taken for granted.
We all have "conditions/boundaries", we should discuss them more often.