| | Re: Married for the wrong reasons!
When he lost his job you found out something very important.
Him NOT providing financially and being productive is a deal breaker for you. I would be for most people
How much of the housework, etc, does he do now that he is not employed?
Does he play video games a lot?
You would have every right to divorce him. He’s reneged on being an equal partner in your marriage. He’s using you as a ‘sugar mama’.
My exh did the same thing. Unfortunately I let it go on for years while trying to be supportive of him either going t school or finding a job. 10 (yes 10) years later he still does nothing. So I divorced him.
Please take care of yourself and do not allow yourself to be used in this manner.
Does he have somewhere he can go, like to live with a relative?
Open your own bank accounts and take your name off any joint account. My bank need my exh and I to go to their office to sign forms and he was removed from the joint accounts. Apparently you cannot just remove yourself from a joint account.
Since he is being financially irresponsible, as you have found out, you are still responsible for it when he overdraws the account.