The things with my wife were not going very well. We just had a baby and it was stressing us both. I also was looking for a job because I am going to be jobless in July. She has being jobless since we got married 1.8 years ago. We were facing some financial problems and I was afraid I was not going to be able to provide to my family. She also started attending school to get her teaching certificate just one month after having the baby so I was working and in charge of the baby when she was in school. The stress was consuming us both. I lost track of our relationship because I was working too much and taking care of the baby in my hours off.
I knew things were going bad. We went to pass xmas with her family. On the way I found pictures of her naked that she was sending to her exboyfriend. I tried to do the right thing while with her family but she was not cooperating. In xmas day she told me she wanted the divorce. I stayed with her family more days so it was awkward. I came back home and she stayed with her family. She brought my son to me and left the city to pass new years with her friends out of the city. She asked me to move out. I suggested counseling and we attended. I did not have a place to go and I ended up staying January and February in our home before moving out. In the meantime I discovered she had a crush with another man (she told me). I tried to do my best to get her back but she was just too aggressive. I don’t know if it is because I was in the middle of her and the other guy. Hope no. Everything used to make her mad at me. I left “our place” and try to fix the things. It did not work. She started dating another man after one month of separation (or that is what she told me). We communicate when she gives me my son and in the counseling therapy. I asked her to stop seeing this guy but she accused me of trying to control her and told me that it is not my business.
I give a lot of money for her to take care of our son and I also pass three nights a week with him. When I saw the marriage falling apart I asked her to give me time with her alone. I asked her to put the baby in day care to reduce her stress. She did not want it.
I essentially have conceded in anything she has wanted since then. She has the power because I am the one who wants our relationship to work. I have being consistent all the time and I have always let her know that I want another opportunity.
Now she demands me to pay daycare and child-support (more that i should if we were legally divorced) so she can attend to her school and have time to find a job. The last time I talked to her she asked me to take care of our son for the whole weekend (I am supposed to take him only the Sundays) so she could go to a festival out of town. I wanted her to have a good time so I agree, but with the condition that she did not go with this man. Needless to say, she accused me again of trying to control her and took my son with them. Our counseling session was only complaints about me trying to control her. She told me she is filing the divorce and she even brad about the other guy. I am losing my marriage and my son. She did not give me any chance to fix our problems.
I cannot live in the same city anymore. There is no job for me here so I will not see my son often. I have tried everything I can imagine to get her back. Nothing works and we are meeting to talk about divorce agreements this coming week. After all this, is there hope? Or I should just give up and move on (very hard).
