Originally Posted by PBear

I cheated because the intimacy in our marriage had failed to a point that I thought my options were either divorce or find a way to have my needs met outside the marriage long enough to let the kids get out of the house. It was a stupid decision, and it will end in divorce anyway. And rather than lasting the 6 to 8 years I would have needed, I lasted about 6 weeks before I realized there was no way it was going to work, and we decided to separate.

Now, the reasons WHY the intimacy are multiple and varied. As our marriage counselor said to me, the affair is often just the symptom of the problems that's visible. But it soon becomes THE problem in the marriage. Kind of like a heart attack is the results of poor diet, lifestyle choices, genetics... When it happens, it is THE thing that needs to be treated and prioritized. At that point, it's a little late to worry about how much cream you put in your coffee for the last 20 years, you know?

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