Toby

Fiesty, my heart goes out to you also. My husband also had a severe stroke 5 years ago at age 43. He has come back preaty well except for cognitive issues and major depression. As far as sex goes he was fine for the first few years post stroke, a little bit of ed but only when tired. As he has had anti depressants added and more drugs for anger and high BP, he has a lot of trouble now. It's not fun for the partner as we feel kinda like we are to blame. He also has not tried viagra or anything.

We have been in counseling both marriage and seperate. He has a lot of life changes he has had to go through. So do I. He is different now than the man I married. His emotions were really hit hard where his brain was injured.

We have gone through so much hell over the last five years trying to adjust to life as he is now cosidered dissabled. He lost his business and our home. As I see it our lives have changed and we have to learn to stand together strong. I can only say if you can try and get both of you back to counseling. We have gone to many before we found ones who work with brain injurys.

We recently were separeted for 8 weeks because of many of his lousy behaviors. But after 23 years we decided to try it over. We love each other but it is a strugle after any serious illness.
Bring this ED problem up to his neuro and other doctors as this is so very hard for any man. We are in the same boat it stinks. In the meantime I try a lot of compassion and love. Snuggle and touching dosn't hurt either. Time and love and compassion. Best to you both, hang in there. Toby