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endlessgrief · 05-28-2012, 06:17 AM

This is a subject that seems to be growing in frequency here on TAM. One spouse does all the work and the other does nothing and has the nerve to get defensive when called on their selfishness. It's not just about him anymore, he's a married father for God's sake!

Seriously, it already sounds like you are fed up and your resentment is growing. I'll bet he doesn't even notice either. He needs take his head out of his azz and be a husband and father. No one forced him into becoming those things. As long as you do everything, even if you complain, he is going to slack off and do his own thing. There are no consequences for him, you see. You get mad, big deal, he still goes out to play. He needs a wake up call.

It's probably not in your nature to slack off, hence, you get the lions share of the work with no help. Now he wants to write a book? About what? How to get away with murder? How to be a sh!tty husband? Awful Husbands for Dummies? (I could do this all day).

05-28-2012, 06:17 AM	#7 (permalink)
endlessgrief Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 2,346	Re: Selfish Husband- Need Help This is a subject that seems to be growing in frequency here on TAM. One spouse does all the work and the other does nothing and has the nerve to get defensive when called on their selfishness. It's not just about him anymore, he's a married father for God's sake! Seriously, it already sounds like you are fed up and your resentment is growing. I'll bet he doesn't even notice either. He needs take his head out of his azz and be a husband and father. No one forced him into becoming those things. As long as you do everything, even if you complain, he is going to slack off and do his own thing. There are no consequences for him, you see. You get mad, big deal, he still goes out to play. He needs a wake up call. It's probably not in your nature to slack off, hence, you get the lions share of the work with no help. Now he wants to write a book? About what? How to get away with murder? How to be a sh!tty husband? Awful Husbands for Dummies? (I could do this all day). __________________ The snake is notoriously tempting But the snake is fair. What is worse than not knowing? To live or disappear?