I ended up finding the online text version of No More Mr Nice Guy here: https://7chan.org/lit/src/Robert_Glo...r_Nice_Guy.pdf
Ouch! I haven't read much but his description is very close to the bone of my personality and behaviour during our marriage. This one will be an eye opener!
I also received Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends in the mail today. I think between these two books and TAM I might be able to ditch my individual counselling sessions.