With Dracs last post.
This guy sounds like a Jerk. Why did he marry you if he KNEW you had children, that Children are alot of hard work.
he is just selfish and self centered.
Do you happen to live in the Northeast? Being from NJ originally, reading some of your comments sounds like typical NY Metro Obnoxious sayings, or Boston Area, with the backhanded Comments.
No reason for your daughter to live like this, you either tell him to treat her as a 10 year old, or to get some Counseling.
Sounds like this is how he was treated as a youngster.