nader

I've been kind of hooked on Athol Kay lately thanks to this forum... but I have a few issues.

I think his general principle is spot on -self improvement, finding the right Alpha/Beta mix that your wife responds to.

On the other hand, it's too much obsession with sex ranking and too much 'Game.' the emotional components of love, trust, things that build a solid relationship... seem to all but lost here. It's like he missed out on the opportunity in his single years to be some master pickup artist so now he's making up for it in his marriage.

He seems overly paranoid about cheating.. how easy it is to cheat, how if you don't do a, b and c your wife is going to just run off to someone with a higher rank than you. If your friend crashes at your place he is obviously trying to steal your wife. If you do the MAP women are going to flock to you and you wont' be able to control yourself.

Some of these scenarios he describes just seem utterly preposterous to me when I try to plug in friends/acquaintances from my own life. We are not a bunch of water buffalos in the wild competing for mates to pass on our genetic material. I understand the 'natural selection hardwiring' aspect of it, but there's something missing.

I read one of blog posts where he basically said his wife is his personal f-toy, that's all he needs her for, she's replaceable and if she stopped he would drop her like an old hat. I got really disillusioned at this point. Some of this stuff is just incredibly offensive.

I've like to hear from others... how they've managed to integrate some of these principles into their marriage, and perhaps some other resources to balance out the excessive misogyny and cynicism I'm picking up here.