Chopblock

"CHild support isn't free money it is to help feed and cloth the children since so many parents don't do it on there own without a court order."

Wrong. Child support is INTENDED to help feed and clothe the children...

In reality, it seldom plays out that way, especially when the woman gets a new wallet... err boyfriend and suddenly has way more household income than should ever merit bleeding the father dry. I agree that not only are the calculations antiquated and biased, but there is little to no oversight to ensure that 1) the amounts are fair at all, and 2) that the money goes to the child.

Personally, I'd rather there be a much more accountable system in cases where amounts can't be agreed upon. The father should be able to challenge the mother to prove that the money really is going to CS. I realize its expensive to raise a child, but you can tell whether or not that money really is being used for its intended purpose. If junior is wearing worn out shoes while mom and boyfriend are on their 2nd cruise this year, something isn't right.

GA, I think a lot of it is mental, which irritates the hell out ofm e. Gf seems to have erected so many utterly RIDICULOUS mental barriers, and justifies them with that "if thats what I think, then thats what I think" attitude. No matter how many times I compliment or dote on her, when she is in one of those moods, its meaningless. She believes she is unattractive, therefore how can anyone else find her attractive.

I've told her before and asserted the viewpoint that the attitude is often more powerful than the imagery. I've met fabulously gorgeous girls who only see themselves as ugly, and average girls who were confident and happy. Guess which ones were more desirable.