Originally Posted by warlock07
Isn't not exposing her affair enabling the behavior? Exposing proves that it is indeed shameful behavior she is indulging in.
Enabling? She's going to do it anyway. Or she'll decide to stop on her own. Or she'll stop after it's exposed. People may find out about it after "exposure" and point their fingers and say "tsk tsk that's shameful behavior". So what?
Meanwhile she'll be furious and the divorce attorneys feed that and 5 years and 10's of thousands of dollars later they finally settle the divorce for what the parties could have agreed to if they remained civil and amicable rather than taking shots at each other.
The marriage is OVER.
The goal is to get out of the marriage as quickly as possible not to do things to show other people how shameful she is. What they think doesn't matter.
I am not advocating "inaction" I am advocating the "right" action.