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Chopblock · 05-05-2008, 08:08 AM

Thanks for your replies mommy. They were geared towards draconis, but its nice to see other viewpoints.

Though one thing that did conflict: he took the stance in point 2 that there are no gender specific roles, but then went around to imply that he shouldn't be less of a man because he was unable to perform manly roles (or his wife did them better). That is a tad confusing, which is why I worded my question the way I did.

FYI, there were points where I would draw baths for her. It wasn't just "here's a bath". There were chocolate strawberries. I washed her hair... I pumiced her freakin' feet! Most men have no idea what pumice is and I was giving it away for free!

Yes I understand "the way" I ask for things. While I've done my best to avoid being confrontational, I have had the same lack of success with "I miss the connection it gives us and would really appreciate making love to you" as I have with "its been 8 months since you put out, what the hell?"

Mommy22, you specifically said "make love to my husband whenever he wants".

Why do you do this? How did things get to be this way? I have often asserted that the sexiest thing a woman can do in bed is WANT to be there. Clearly, you want to be there, and you are choosing to do so.

A good part of my frustration is over feeling rejected. At this point, she doesn't even bother saying "I'm too tired" she says "I don't want to". Fine its honest, but you can't expect me to leave it at that. WHY doesn't she want to? I feel like a VERY important piece of the puzzle is being withheld. I feel given what I give and do, I deserve to know WHY she doesn't want to, and what I can do to fix it.

05-05-2008, 08:08 AM	#18 (permalink)
Chopblock Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 173	Re: Do women really want what they want? Thanks for your replies mommy. They were geared towards draconis, but its nice to see other viewpoints. Though one thing that did conflict: he took the stance in point 2 that there are no gender specific roles, but then went around to imply that he shouldn't be less of a man because he was unable to perform manly roles (or his wife did them better). That is a tad confusing, which is why I worded my question the way I did. FYI, there were points where I would draw baths for her. It wasn't just "here's a bath". There were chocolate strawberries. I washed her hair... I pumiced her freakin' feet! Most men have no idea what pumice is and I was giving it away for free! Yes I understand "the way" I ask for things. While I've done my best to avoid being confrontational, I have had the same lack of success with "I miss the connection it gives us and would really appreciate making love to you" as I have with "its been 8 months since you put out, what the hell?" Mommy22, you specifically said "make love to my husband whenever he wants". Why do you do this? How did things get to be this way? I have often asserted that the sexiest thing a woman can do in bed is WANT to be there. Clearly, you want to be there, and you are choosing to do so. A good part of my frustration is over feeling rejected. At this point, she doesn't even bother saying "I'm too tired" she says "I don't want to". Fine its honest, but you can't expect me to leave it at that. WHY doesn't she want to? I feel like a VERY important piece of the puzzle is being withheld. I feel given what I give and do, I deserve to know WHY she doesn't want to, and what I can do to fix it.