| | Re: Getting Past Abuse
I am active duty military. Abuse of your spouse is NOT taught in any training session in the military. Blaming the military is not the correct thing to do. Your husband had issues long before he joined the service. The military environment may have accelerated his abusive behavior but did NOT cause it. I want to be very clear on that. Having said that, you can get past abuse but your H will not change unless his cage is rattled. This can be done by moving out and filing for D or filing for a domestic violence restraining order and having him evicted. You should report these incidents to familiy advocacy on base. This WILL NOT hurt his career and he will not be arrested but can help him get treatment and will put his service on notice that there are problems at home. DV is NOT tolerated in the military and troops who are repeat offenders are shown the door.