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Originally Posted by Chopblock
I accept that women view it differently than men. Fine. However I still believe that every day that goes by without, is a day we did things "her way". In a he wants/she doesn't want situation, the compromise can only be "you get your way sometimes, I get my way sometimes". Thats fine as long as its equitable. I don't think "my way for 8 months, your way for 30 mins" is equitable.
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I think the compromise can work well when sex drives are different, but when one is non-existent the only sex you would get would be without her wanting it, and I don't think that would work for either of you long term. When I say I think men/women view it differently, I was thinking more along the lines of whether or not she really understands how no sex at all is affecting you. If she has no drive at the moment, she may not realize how this is making you feel. As I've posted somewhere before, I have friends who've been married 20+ years and joke about how their husbands don't 'get any' and I really don't think they have a clue how their husbands probably feel about this.