Re: Doesnt "going dark" aka NC push them closer to OW/OM?!?!
We are meeting sunday so he could see the kids. He has met our 6 month old once. He hasnt seen in 6 months. Our 3 year old is really struggling with the divorce and his dad not moving back up here. He is staying in NC. I have filed for divorce but am still awaiting the papers to get served to him. It really makes me sad.
We talked again today about belongings and he told me he hates me because he is having to pay child support and because i want most of the furniture. (which he offered to me, so i accepted). He went on to call me a b*tch because he claims im trying to take everything from him.
Everything i say to him is never right. I try to be nice and meet him half way to see our kids and i dont have to do that but i am to be nice so he can have some sort of relationship with them. I told him i didnt have to do it but i was trying to be fair and nice and of course he said "well then dont do it, i dont need you doing that for me, blah blah blah. He had asked me if i wanted to stay and eat with them and i told him i would, then today i told him if he'd prefer to spend alone time with our oldest son id go off and do something else so he can spend some time with our 3 year old. Well after i said that he went on to say how im a b*tch for changing plans. Then he said he'd going to have nothing, so i said id split the furniture with him, i only said id take it all because he offered it to me. Well after i said that he said he doesnt want the furniture. He is mad because im making him pay the full amount of child support, he only wants to pay 200 for 2 kids. I mean i just really cant win with him.
After sunday im going strictly NC.
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