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GAsoccerman · 05-06-2008, 02:14 AM

Yep, my wife is a SLOB as well, and I came from a house where we cleaned up after ourselves and put everything back where it belonged. She came from a hosue where her mother was a compulsive cleaner, so her mother cleaned up everything and never said a word, I litterally can walk in her mothers house and throw my keys on teh floor, she will pick them up and put them where she wants them, and never say a word to me.

But my wife is a slob. So are her three sisters, when me and the brother-in-laws get together we drink and ***** about our slob wives...with a laugh. Because we all know the deal.

Anyway, I went on strike, I do my own laundry and the kids sometimes, teaching my kids to do their own. I do not clean up her dishes, I leave them there. I've learned to ignore her mess, until she finally get's the point that her mother does not live with us and I will not clean up after her. I may make the kids do it, "clean up the living room, downstairs, etc." But when SHE is having company and she wants to clean up the house....I refuse to help her, I simply say, if you cleaned up after yourself all the time, then you would not need to "rush" to clean up the house before you friends arrive.

Slowly but surely life has gotten better and she does things on her own, like the dishes, etc.

My wife knows I like a clean house, not a perfect house, but clean and I do my fair share, I vacum, do laundry, dishes, plus I am finishing off the basement, which involved Framming, Sheet rocking, mudding, painting...etc. She ask's when will I be done with it, I said well If I had more time to work on it, instead of cleaning up the house, then it would be done.

My point to her is TEAM WORK, the kids can do certain chores, and we can maintain the laundry and dishes daily.

I grew up having chores and I expect my kids to do the same, but it's tough when your wife's dirty dish and empty milk glass is on the desk next to the computer...for 3 days.

it's a work in progress, I don't get mad anymore, I am indifferent about it, but I certainly will not clean up after her, Kids yes, wife no. They are learning, she is an adult.

05-06-2008, 02:14 AM	#11 (permalink)
GAsoccerman Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Georgia Posts: 571	Re: Tired of everything Yep, my wife is a SLOB as well, and I came from a house where we cleaned up after ourselves and put everything back where it belonged. She came from a hosue where her mother was a compulsive cleaner, so her mother cleaned up everything and never said a word, I litterally can walk in her mothers house and throw my keys on teh floor, she will pick them up and put them where she wants them, and never say a word to me. But my wife is a slob. So are her three sisters, when me and the brother-in-laws get together we drink and ***** about our slob wives...with a laugh. Because we all know the deal. Anyway, I went on strike, I do my own laundry and the kids sometimes, teaching my kids to do their own. I do not clean up her dishes, I leave them there. I've learned to ignore her mess, until she finally get's the point that her mother does not live with us and I will not clean up after her. I may make the kids do it, "clean up the living room, downstairs, etc." But when SHE is having company and she wants to clean up the house....I refuse to help her, I simply say, if you cleaned up after yourself all the time, then you would not need to "rush" to clean up the house before you friends arrive. Slowly but surely life has gotten better and she does things on her own, like the dishes, etc. My wife knows I like a clean house, not a perfect house, but clean and I do my fair share, I vacum, do laundry, dishes, plus I am finishing off the basement, which involved Framming, Sheet rocking, mudding, painting...etc. She ask's when will I be done with it, I said well If I had more time to work on it, instead of cleaning up the house, then it would be done. My point to her is TEAM WORK, the kids can do certain chores, and we can maintain the laundry and dishes daily. I grew up having chores and I expect my kids to do the same, but it's tough when your wife's dirty dish and empty milk glass is on the desk next to the computer...for 3 days. it's a work in progress, I don't get mad anymore, I am indifferent about it, but I certainly will not clean up after her, Kids yes, wife no. They are learning, she is an adult.