pigpen, they've only been married a year.. I understand that after 18 years, you may think you've given enough, and that it's time to stop compromising. That sounds reasonable to me too.
But marriage IS a compromise.. it always takes two willing people to make it work, and one of the two must also be willing to take the first steps towards building the bridges. You don't really think she should give up on a marriage a year old, just over some decorating? Isn't it worth trying the decorating first?
It seems to me that these days Divorce is too easily bandied about as the instant solution to all problems. It takes hard work to make a marriage work, and sometime it doesn't work, but not making any attempt at all is a shame and a waste.
Oh and pigpen, we wouldn't dislike you for giving your opinion dear... we are all here to learn, and your view is as valid as anybody else's.. not saying any of us will agree with you though!
