Talk About Marriage - View Single Post

Chopblock · 05-06-2008, 10:56 AM

"But when SHE is having company and she wants to clean up the house....I refuse to help her, I simply say, if you cleaned up after yourself all the time, then you would not need to "rush" to clean up the house before you friends arrive."

This is another GREAT example of structuring the situation so the consequences to her are more severe and immediate than the effort needed to fix the situation. She procrastinates, but then expects a clean house when her friends are coming. She has no choice but to clean! I love it!

"When she saw what to her was a better deal, away she went, so being compliant for my bro didn't work out at all."

Read my thread: "do women want what they want". The above is the issue I ask about -- doing what she wants all the time is just gong to leave her unfulfilled. People do not value what comes easy to them. You have to make her work for it, not think she is owed it.

05-06-2008, 10:56 AM	#12 (permalink)
Chopblock Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 213	Re: Tired of everything "But when SHE is having company and she wants to clean up the house....I refuse to help her, I simply say, if you cleaned up after yourself all the time, then you would not need to "rush" to clean up the house before you friends arrive." This is another GREAT example of structuring the situation so the consequences to her are more severe and immediate than the effort needed to fix the situation. She procrastinates, but then expects a clean house when her friends are coming. She has no choice but to clean! I love it! "When she saw what to her was a better deal, away she went, so being compliant for my bro didn't work out at all." Read my thread: "do women want what they want". The above is the issue I ask about -- doing what she wants all the time is just gong to leave her unfulfilled. People do not value what comes easy to them. You have to make her work for it, not think she is owed it.