Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - hi im new to this and need advice desperately

Chopblock · 05-06-2008, 08:51 AM

I disagree: I say he moved out because he needed some space and time -- it sounds like you could use the same.

I am not saying go right out and start dating, I am saying work on yourself and anything that YOU feel neglected over. Do you have hobbies or interests that you gave up? Rekindle them. Find out what makes YOU tick again.

You have to be prepared that he may very well reach the decision that he does not want to save the marriage. If that happens, you can either be prepared, or you can be devastated. You said you don't want to sit there crying over him hoping he returns.

As far as "falling out of love", I'm thinking its more of a straw that broke the camels back. There is often a root cause which feeds into other areas of the relationship, but there is also a lot of little things. Really, think of things that might have been the problem and work on fixing them.

But do not beg him and nag him, it will only push him further away.

05-06-2008, 08:51 AM	#4 (permalink)
Chopblock Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 173	Re: hi im new to this and need advice desperately I disagree: I say he moved out because he needed some space and time -- it sounds like you could use the same. I am not saying go right out and start dating, I am saying work on yourself and anything that YOU feel neglected over. Do you have hobbies or interests that you gave up? Rekindle them. Find out what makes YOU tick again. You have to be prepared that he may very well reach the decision that he does not want to save the marriage. If that happens, you can either be prepared, or you can be devastated. You said you don't want to sit there crying over him hoping he returns. As far as "falling out of love", I'm thinking its more of a straw that broke the camels back. There is often a root cause which feeds into other areas of the relationship, but there is also a lot of little things. Really, think of things that might have been the problem and work on fixing them. But do not beg him and nag him, it will only push him further away.